Communion: The Female Search for Love: 2 (Love Song to the Nation, 2)

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Celebrated as one of our nation's leading public intellectual by The Atlantic Monthly, as well as one of Utne Reader's "100 Visionaries Who Could Change Your Life," she is a charismatic speaker who divides her time among teaching, writing, and lecturing around the world. Perhaps it used to be even less cool, but with so many people these days thinking that equality has been achieved, or even that we’ve gone too far, and with many of the “visible” problems that early feminists addressed seemingly on the way out, bolding proclaiming your feminism today has the potential of making you seem even more out of touch than it did in the 60s or 70s. Powerful women reveal psychological wholeness when we refuse to embrace any type of thinking that suggests we should or must choose success over love.

I found the chapter/s on older generations to be particularly insightful and useful for me, as I reflect on my parents’ marriage. All the conversations I’ve had with women and my female friends, so many insights were given into those conversations at a much higher level here. You can change your choices at any time by visiting Cookie preferences, as described in the Cookie notice. Otra muy buena es cuando explica que su pareja debe tener muy claro que si ella no quiere tener relaciones sexuales, incluso durante meses, está en su derecho. She cites the work of John Bradshaw, Creating Love: The Next Great Stage of Growth , which encourages both men and women to reflect extensively (with the best intentions), to what extent our parents confused love with abuse — linking abuse to the “ cultural acceptance of patriarchal domination as a founding narrative.hooks' treatise on love is passionate and positive, and goes a long way to build up strength and determination in readers. Communion is the heart-to-heart talk every woman -- mother, daughter, friend, and lover -- needs to have. For the most part, I find her discussion fair and balanced, and rooted in eliminating patriarchy and creating equality for all people. It takes courage for women to challenge the seduction of domination, the making of Love synonymous with erotic conflict between the powerful and the powerless. Idea of a "coming out process" to yourself for realizing/believing/identifying yourself as straight, sharing same process as those who had to consciously come out as queer (p.

I found myself reflecting on the ways in which I’ve watched myself battle through relationships based on or steeped in notions and ideals that I inherently rejected (based on familial history), have outrightly rejected (once presented to me) or those that I have struggled to squeeze myself into when I was lost in conflicting emotional states (my own, the ones that were thrust upon me or that I had courted into my life). While I’m sure that’s often true on an individual level, she doesn’t mention how gay men can also be cruelly (or unintentionally) misogynistic and sexist just like everyone else in the world; she seems to be under the impression that they are exempt from that. hooks agrees with Fromm that love is an art form, "an action informed by care, respect, knowledge, and responsibility.hooks talks about how hard it can be for powerful, self-actualized women to find powerful, self-actualized men who are deeply committed to equality and freedom for women, and that this means that women need to learn to thrive regardless of whether they have a partner, rather than counting on a partner to meet their emotional needs. They were women who saw menopause as a rite of passage in which they would move from slavery to freedom. All that will be achieved is a reversal of roles, rather than the emotional equality achieved through the act of loving that every person desires. Por tanto, aconsejable solamente para mujeres que quieran encontrar razones para odiar a los hombres. And while most of the platitudes held true for me personally, I don't expect they'll hold true for all women.

Affirming our natural beauty before we adorn it in other ways keeps us from developing a dependency on artifice" (p. It is, however, the ideal choice for women who have always silently wondered why intimacy and true fulfillment appear to be more fantasies than realities.I realized that every time I quoted this book during the reading of it, every friend would be like — yo, can I read that after you? Years later, when I was ready to leave this relationship, I planned my exit much as one might plan leaving a job" (p. Como cuando acuerda con su pareja que él ponga la mayor parte del dinero de gastos comunes para que ella, que gana mucho menos, pueda ahorrar, y luego se muestra orgullosa de haber sido lo bastante lista (más que muchas de sus compañeras feministas) como para ahorrar y poder de ese modo abandonarle sin pasar por dificultades económicas. I feel like a clown saying this book changed my life because it’s 20 years old and bell hooks is a well known author, but these words have completely changed my perspective on love.